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Kaboloh List

Kaboloh to take on for this week Bli Neder. [These are suggestions that can be adapted towards ones personal circumstances]. These should be done in private where possible without anyone knowing. Just once a day is fine.

They can be continued longer if possible!

1] To say at least one Birchas Asher Yotzer per day standing still and thinking about the miracle of our good health. This can be done for the zechus of a choleh.

2] To do something for some one else secretly eg –clear something away/ wash up something.

3] Do something for Hashem only –not for any other reason, for yourself or anyone’s approval etc.

4] When you are about to finish a learning session –keep the sefer open for a few more seconds –learn a few words extra/ mentally review what was learnt /think how it can be brought into practice.

5] Alacrity -Set alarm clock 1 minute earlier and try and waste less time at night to get to sleep 1 minute earlier.

6] Contemplate for 5 seconds before davening /learning that we are going to talk directly to Hashem/ hear what He is telling us when we learn. Contemplate the universal impact it can have.

7] To be on time [even early!] for something eg davening /learning /a meeting/ an event. Show respect for the thing/ the person/ organisers .

8] Before starting ones day say –“anything I do today that makes someone’s life easier should be a fulfillment of the mitzvah of “v’ohavtoh leraichoh lkemochoh””

9] Say a brocho inside that you don’t normally say from a text.

10] Choose someone and think about their positive traits/ something positive about a situation. And if appropriate verbalise it.

11] Say in private –“I love You Hashem”.

12] Think about the concept of Eyn Od Milvado. Think about H’s presence here now in this room.

13] Refrain from saying something unnecessary that you thought to say –take control of your speech.

14] Think about Neiloh for a few seconds before an “ordinary” davening.

15] Put seforim back in Shul /Beis Midrash –yours and some others too.

16] Not to talk throughout a tefila –or if that is obvious- during the entire time in shul.

17] Give something to tzedoko every day

18] Smile at someone.

19] Say a brocho out loud so someone can say omen

20] Thank Hashem for a small kindness that you may normally take for granted

21] Say an ad hoc small tefilla for yourself or someone else outside of normal davening time.

22] Resolve to accept any criticism you receive as a message from Hashem to improve in some way rather than becoming defensive.

23] Resolve to accept inconvenience/ difficulty/adversity with equanimity –as a kaporoh.

24] Before doing a mitzvah contemplate: Hashem – who sees throughout time and is aware of every “future” instance of fulfillment of this command -asked me personally to do this mitzvah for Him!

25] Be mevater –don’t stand up for your rights /give in to avoid an argument.

26] Self control –refrain from eating or drinking one item if possible [eg second helping when you don’t really need it!]

27] Spend a few extra positive moments with spouse/children

28] Refrain from talking for first half hour [to start with!] of learning session.

29] Give someone a compliment or words of encouragement

30] Say Omen .. Yehey Shmei Raboh with full kavono taking seriously the Chazal which says that this can annul 70years of bad decrees.

31] Focus on something nice that somebody else has and be happy for them, thinking about a positive aspect of their personality/ actions that may make them deserving of that thing.

32] When making a Brocho on food have in mind that Hashem has specifically created and delivered this item to you – appreciate it!

33] Call someone who may appreciate it to enquire of their welfare etc.

34] Spend a minute thinking about Yerushalayim in Temple times –the tangible Divine presence, prophets freely accessible, nobility and kedusha in every house. Think about what we are lacking.

35] Spend a minute thinking over what happened yesterday. Did I behave appropriately, anything I can fix?